Reconciling the gap between the inner and the outer societal rules and values

When our “outside societal rules and values” are different to our “inner rules and values”, it creates stress and tension. This is a real challenge for us. Often, we may not even know what those inner rules and values are, but when it’s different to the “outer world rules and values”, it simply doesn’t feel right or make sense to us. 

This gap will general create a lot of stress and tension for us as we try to reconcile our “outer world perception” with our inner ones. The bigger the gap, the bigger the stress. The stress and tension will then spread to many other areas of our lives, if we are not aware. Counseling is to help us reconcile this gap. It’s a bit like updating our Windows or firmware.

So how do we do that?

1. Firstly, we need to identify what those inner rules and values are.

2. Find, or upskill and change the outer world so that it’s more in line with our inner rules and values.

3. We need to defuse, change, update or refine our inner rules and values to reconcile with our outer world.

4. Or a combination of the above to find that “sweet spot”, although it may be very elusive and ever changing.

So have you updated your windows recently?