Sometimes the question "why?" is a good one. Like, why can't we live in a more peaceful world? Or why did I eat *all* those cookies? And why don't we call mustaches mouthbrows?
But there are times - especially during a crisis - when "why" may not the best puzzle to solve. When you're in an emotional entanglement, a difficult predicament or a physical hardship, asking "what" will do more.
What has directionality.
Why keeps you stuck in circular thinking.
What offers solutions.
What offers solutions.
Why offers no game plan.
So, the next time you find yourself in a bad place, ask yourself:
"What can I do to make things better?
not
"Why is this happening to me?
Once the crisis is over THEN you can search for the "Why".
Dr Deborah Serani, Psy.D.
Psychologist
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Smithtown, NY 11787 USA
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www.psychologytoday.com/blog/two-takes-depression