Following one’s thinking, principles and values when healthy, is not the same as “selfishness”

When one is following one’s thinking, principles, and values, it may seem “selfish” to some folks, especially for folks who tend to do the opposite and follow the thinking, principles, and values of others and society for social functioning. 

Of course, both have a lot to learn from each other for balance. Any extremes can have their own set of problems.

When HEALTHY, one of the main benefits for those who focus more on their own internal thinking, principles, and values, is the intrinsic appreciation and acceptance of others for who they are.

I want to be “me”, and I would love for you to be “you”. We may not agree, and at the same time, I can be “me”, and you can be “you” too. I want that for you.

It’s only “selfish” when I want to be “me”, but you can’t be you and I want you to change for “me”.