The inner harmony vs outer harmony in decision making

Have you ever experienced the inner conflict of doing something that would make others happy but at the expense of your own happiness?

If yes, then how can we process that emotion and make a decision that we can be at peace with?

Decision making can depend on whether we want outer harmony or inner harmony. 

It would be great if we can have both, but at times, we may have to choose one over the other and then be at peace with that. This will require self awareness, acceptance, emotional literacy and emotional processing. 

To achieve outer harmony, follow the values and thinking of others. 

To achieve inner harmony, follow your inner principles and values.